065: The Coaching Habit Unlocks Human Potential with Michael Bungay Stanier

Coaching is a powerful way of being with people, because it unlocks human potential and transforms the way you relate to others. It is also really misunderstood, misrepresented, and when done right it is hard to do. Michael Bungay Stanier is an award winning coach and he joins me today to work through some powerful coaching questions you can use at work and at home. Make sure to listen in, for the turn in the conversation about two thirds of the way through this episode. Ready? Let's do this!

Key Takeaways:

[1:00] Who is Michael Bungay Stanier?

[3:25] Michael’s books, Do More Great Work & The Coaching Habit

[4:31] Michael talks about the ‘resistance’ to coaching and related statistics

[6:00] Coaching is about leading with more curiosity and with a lot less advice

[6:59] The T.E.R.A quotient explains why it’s hard for people to listen and not be an 'advice monster'

[9:33] Coaching is an effective leadership style and it has to be done in 10 minutes or less

[12:59] Michael talks on the process and provides a working definition of coaching

[14:47] Managers can delegate and still hold their value in an organization

[16:41] The drama triangle: Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer

[21:14] The 7 most powerful coaching questions for managers, from The Coaching Habit (p. 200)

[23:04] The two questions Michael puts more weight on when coaching managers.

[26:28] Why does asking 'why' get a little problematic?

[27:27] Which of the questions seem easy but in fact are harder to have a powerful conversation around?

[29:39] The trickiest question for Michael is the foundation question: What do you want?

[32:12] Michael talks on the difference between wants and needs

[34:06] Which of the 7 questions is the most challenging for Michael?

[41:04] How to transform your own potential? Michael has a mastermind group

[43:19] Michael talks about the process of writing and shaping his new book

[46:30] Michael’s one takeaway message: "Say no to more stuff so you can say yes to the right stuff".

Mentioned in This Episode:

Box of Crayons

Do More Great Work by Micheal Bungay Stanier

End Malaria by Micheal Bungay Stanier

Malaria no More

The Coaching Habit by Micheal Bungay Stanier

Goleman, Daniel. "Leadership that gets results." (2000).

TouchPoints: Creating Powerful Leadership Connections in the Smallest of Moments by Douglas Conant and Mette Norgaard

John Whitmore

The 7 most powerful coaching questions… from The Coaching Habit (p. 200)

Immunity to Change by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey

Michael Bungay Stanier’s Mastermind Group