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One of the beauties of maturing is that you learn new ways to contribute to others. In my own case, I often regret that I couldn’t help people in the past the way I can today. I also know that I’ll feel that way in the future.
Remember, feeling something doesn’t necessarily mean that that feeling should stop you. This short video asks two questions that I hope will help you celebrate your progress and embrace the fact that you’ll be better able to contribute to people in the future than you are today.
And, on regrets, check out Forest Sun’s video below. Hat tip to Mynde Mayfield for sharing the video.
Maryam Webster says
Charlie, so true. For my own edification and shove in the just-film-yourself-damn-it direction, I can’t get over what a rockstar you are on video. Gives me the chutzpah to do what I gotta do re: video today, right now. Firing up the Flip in 20…getting that puppy in the bank and posted to blog today.
See? There’s one way you helped that you couldn’t when you weren’t willing to do video before, because you were “too much…” or “not enough…” all those things you’ve written of that kept you from trying video.
And don’t think I didn’t see the guitar neck sticking up behind you. When do we get a solo? 😉
I don’t think you should feel disappointed, because what you’re doing today is great. Of course it would’ve been nice to help to people in the past, as you said it’s life and you learn as you grow.
Now answering the first question; I think I can inspire people to do something they love and teach people things I didn’t have an idea about back then.
What I really want to do is keep spreading the word about being able to live the life you want, and enjoy the world more everyday. I want to encourage young people in my country to use the web to create a positive future.
Birdy Diamond says
1. I have more experience & perspective now, which helps in my art and my writing. I also have this skill of channelling, which, as I was reminded of just this afternoon, has a real capacity to help people fly beyond their fears, both directly by helping them to move forward on the Path to the life they truly desire, and by introducing them to a wider Universe.
2. I can see that as I become more at peace with the ups & downs of the Web 2.0 business life I will become more comfortable spreading my own wings wide, which will enable me to help people more directly & more deeply.
I also see the practical answer that as we move upward we will be getting more & better equipment, both for our web presence as well as for the businesses that comprise that web presence.
Thank you for sharing that piece of yourself, and you have a good weekend too! :>
It’s really hard for me to let go of regrets… and it’s not just regrets, but when I feel slighted, or mistreated in the past. I have a habit of having a grudge on others and holding negative thoughts. It’s just so hard to be positive.
Ryah Albatros says
Henway, I just wanted to say I know how you feel. There’s no easy answer to this, indeed it’s probably taken me the best part of 15 years to let go of some past hurts.
It is my husband who made the difference with this thought: If you have regrets you’re not happy with where you are now. And you should be happy, because those experiences made you who you are. And I love you because of who you are.
It’s hard to explain, but as far as my husband was concerned if I said I regretted my past and my experiences I was as good as saying I didn’t want to be with him. Because it is exactly those experiences that brought us together.
Our nature doesn’t change overnight, but I know we can let go. After all, the only person we hurt with our grudges is ourselves; the person who we think hurt us is probably not losing any sleep.
I wish I had a magic action you can take that would help you let go of it all. But, the only way I know of that works is to make it an act of will to let go a little every day, while holding onto something that made you happy today.
Alison @ Femita says
Thanks for the video. I love your state of mind when it comes to dealing with the past. It’s the combination of acceptance that you can’t change anything about it and positivity because we all learn and keep growing.
Vincent Parker says
Love the post, the videos and some of the great comments after.
Growing up my father used to always say that regret is like a bag of bricks. You can shoulder the regret and let it slow you down, or you can take the bricks out and use them to build a stronger foundation for your life.
He also used to say that perfection was a journey, not a destination. It took years before I really appreciated what he was saying.
Anyway, one thing I really did want to comment on was a reply that Ryah gave to Henway. I loved what she wrote.
I think many people don’t realize that we do have the power to control our emotions. Letting go and controlling your own thoughts takes practice, but it’s worth cultivating. Because it’s your thoughts that direct your actions and the direction of your life.
Thank you for the post and the wonderful comments. Have a great day!