Failure is an opportunity.
If you blame someone else
there is no end to the blame.Therefore the Master
fulfills her own obligations
and corrects her own mistakes.
She does what she needs to do
and demands nothing of others.
–Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
Commentary:
I’ve had a few setbacks this week - good things I was expecting did not come my way. I was originally frustrated until I really thought long and hard about it and realized that the things did not come my way because I hadn’t done the things I needed to do to make them happen. Expecting rewards where none were due, I blamed others and was frustrated.
Blaming others when failure is a result of your action (or in my case, inaction) is a waste of time, energy, and spirit. Focus instead on what you can do to correct your own mistakes, and in those failures, there is an opportunity for growth.
Take the lemons you’ve reaped and make lemonade.
(This selection came from Stephen Mitchell’s translation of the Tao Te Ching
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Excellent points. There’s a post over at Freelance Folder touching on some of the same points, and it’s points we have to take to heart. As an independent professional, there is no passing the buck. We have to try our damndest to avoid failure, but when it occurs, recognize it as the opportunity it is - to earn someone’s respect by owning up to it. It’s amazing how an acknowledgment and apology can work wonders, in professional work and in personal relationships.
Great stuff, as always, Charlie
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@ Amy (QRW): I hadn’t (really) understood the downside of being a freelancer - you’re responsible for all of the success and failures. That’s rather daunting and empowering at the same time. It should have dawned on me when I was reading your excellent post on apologies (http://www.quietrebelwriter.com/2008/04/08/what-to-do-when-you-screw-up/) a few weeks ago. Maybe I was slow that day, or still recovering from the hilarity of one of your Word porn rant posts?
Charlie
You commented on my blog recently that I had no need to read your blog if I wasn’t one to use productivity systems. I wondered how to respond to that because you’re right, I use my internal compass to navigate life, but I love your blog because you always have something interesting to say. You also make me think and knowledge and connection with amazing minds is what I crave pretty much above all else. (chocolate cake is a close second)
Poetic, emotive posts like this are what I love about Productive Flourishing.
Thank you.
Kelly
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@ Kelly: I didn’t mean for that comment to take you aback. Basically, it seems to me you that you have a pretty in tune compass - it’s more of a compliment than it sounds. I’m glad you still find value here and that you’re still part of the conversation - I like having this blog as somewhat as a dialog with other amazing minds and writers. The blog post that you referenced inspired at least one new post, so you may see yet another link back to it. Thanks for openly being you.
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