Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Vlad Dolezal from Fun Life Development.

Think back to when you were a child, building a lego house. (Or using a similar building set.)

You would set off to build a house… then halfway through decide to make it a horse ranch instead… then get distracted by another idea and end up with a space ship with a pack of horses on one wing and a swimming pool on the other.

That’s how personal development feels when you approach it in a fun way. You have a certain intention, but then you get distracted by something interesting, experiment with a few different tidbits, and end up with something completely different than you intended. Yet the result is even more awesome than your original plan, and you had great fun along the way!

Still, some people insist on approaching personal development like building a lego house according to set-in-stone instructions. They stress about getting every brick in the right place, then get annoyed when they don’t progress fast enough, then start procrastinating because the process is boring and doesn’t challenge their mind and then they end up dropping the project and complaining that building lego houses doesn’t work.

Personal development can be just as fun as building a lego house, if you approach it the right way.

If you think personal development should be hard, it will be

There’s a funny thing called selective perception. Put simply, you only notice things you are looking for.

So if you’re looking for hard complicated ways to improve yourself, when you find an easy solution, you drop it because “that can’t possibly be right”. Then you come up with the most weird and convoluted ways to make your self-improvement difficult, because that’s what you’re looking for.

Here’s the thing. Personal development done right is easy. It’s effortless. It’s fun!

Building your own character is just like building a character in a computer game, or like building a lego spaceship:

  • you tack on a bunch of random stuff because you feel like it
  • you keep experimenting and see what you like the best
  • the process is just as much fun as the result
  • there isn’t a final outcome – it’s an endless fun process, where you keep changing and tweaking things because you feel like it. The fun of a building set comes from building things, and the same is true with personal development.

I have tried all sorts of habit changes myself, like waking up early, meditating, being vegetarian, keeping a daily to-do list, or consciously changing my body language (that one was especially fun).

Some of them have stuck and some haven’t. But every single one of them was fun to try! (Yes, even waking up early).

How to Make Personal Development Fun

Here are a few ways to make personal development fun:

  1. Forget about the outcome
  2. Think of it as a fun experiment to see what happens
  3. When you read/hear about cool ideas, TRY THEM
  4. Do it with a friend (either offline or online)
  5. Tell other people about your experiments (that’s one reason starting a blog is great)

Aaaand… yeah. If I ended right here, you would most likely go off nodding, thinking you learned something interesting but leaving your behavior unchanged.

I’m not a big fan of list posts for exactly that reason. That’s why I let this list occupy such a small part of this post.

Instead, I will give you one thorough example, to help you drive the concept deep into your subconscious. This will stimulate your subconscious mind’s creativity and get it thinking of how to make other personal development ideas fun.

An example of making personal development fun

You can approach any part of personal development as a game. I’m going to take open-mindedness as an example here:

Think of lying on a grass meadow on a warm summer day, with a friend, watching the clouds above.

“That one looks like a car,” you say pointing at a cloud.
“It looks like a dog to me…” your friend replies.

What is your reply? Do you jump up angrily and shout “NO, it’s definitely a car! You’re completely wrong!” and storm off?

Or do you say “Wait… hang on… oh yea! I can see what you mean. I’d actually say it’s a bit more of a tiger, but I can definitely see where you’re coming from with the dog.”

And then you can have more fun guessing all the other interpretations for that cloud. Maybe it can also be a motorcycle, or a pretzel…

And considering other people’s point of view is just like that. For a moment, you suspend all judgment, and see the world as they see it. And then you think of all other interpretations of the same situation, just to see what fun things you can come up with.

You can even find a friend who’s also interested in practicing open-mindedness and challenge each other with issues and ideas to be open-minded about.

One more thing. Notice how I never once mentioned how will open-mindedness be useful to you? That’s because focusing on the outcome will make it seem like a chore. Consider the outcome when choosing what habits to try, but once you get started, forget the outcome, and enjoy it like a game.

Personal development is fun. All you have to do is approach it in the right way.

Now stay with me, this is important. You might be tempted to skip the last few paragraphs.

Maybe you’re thinking of commenting, or retweeting this post.

Don’t. Not yet. Before you do anything else, I want you to use the information here.

Because while comments and retweets are nice, they’re not the real thing. The real thing is helping you improve your life.

So in a moment, when I say the word “now”, I want you to stop reading and start thinking. Think about your personal development, and how you could make it more fun. Then think of some specific actions you can take in the next 24 hours to make it more fun.

When you’re done, then you can go do something else. And if you come up with an interesting way of making personal development fun, please share it in the comments! :)

Okay, ready? Three, two, one…

This blog post ends now.

About the author: Vlad Dolezal writes Fun Life Development, a blog that’s full of ideas on how to improve your life while having fun. You can also follow Vlad on twitter to tell him that he’s completely wrong and that personal development should be hard work!

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I meant to have this guide up a few weeks ago, but time slipped away and I didn’t quite manage to get it out. I’ve been sensing pre-SXSW freakout from some of my friends, so I’m going to go ahead and put this out anyway.

If you happened to be reading this on twitter, you’ve already seen most of these, but I know that there are plenty of people on a plane today that didn’t have a chance to join that conversation.

There are a few things that I’d like to preface this guide with:

  1. This will only be my second trip to SXSW. I’m not a seasoned veteran – but I have a good memory and I’m a people-watcher.
  2. This guide is called a Maven’s Guide because I’m primarily a maven ala The Tipping Point (affiliate link): I’m an information and idea specialist.
  3. Were I primarily a Connector or Salesman, then I’d approach SXSW differently, and one of the biggest things I learned last year was that people approached the event with completely different expectations and orientations.

    In other words, if you’re showing up to SXSW to party hard, you’ll probably want to augment this guide with one that’s written from someone who shows up to party hard.

  4. When I say SXSW, I mean SXSW Interactive. The Film and Music culture is different. Also, #sxswi is the twitter hashtag you’ll want to follow for SXSW Interactive.

There are three main reasons people go to SXSW: People, Panels, and Parties. As you can probably tell, I’m going to be focusing on the first two.

So, without further ado, here are a few questions that people have asked me or that I asked last year:

Question: What’s the most compelling reason to go to SXSW?
Answer: You get to meet and befriend a bunch of cool people and see what’s going to be happening in the next 3-12 months.

In short, were it not for SXSW, I wouldn’t have met the great people that I now talk to weekly, and I won’t name names because I’ll probably forget somebody and kick myself. Additionally, SXSW got me thinking about a lot of Big Ideas that played out for the six months following it.

Question:What should I wear?
Answer: It’s completely casual – T-shirts and pants/jeans are fine. It’s really easy to overdress, even for women, and the only thing worse than being slightly underdressed is being so overdressed that you make everyone else uncomfortable.

Question: Are there newbie orientation panels worth attending?
Answer: This one’s a hard one to answer. There is one on Friday at 2pm and another at 5pm, but I didn’t find those panels nearly as valuable as just finding people I wanted to hang out with and figuring it out from there.

Question: How do I sift through the impressive list of panels and figure out what’s worth going to? It’s a bit overwhelming!
Answer: The first thing that you’ve got to know is that the panels are recorded, so you don’t have to be at every one. That said, you won’t get as much out of the recordings as you will by attending them, and I know a few people who didn’t go to any assuming they’d watch the videos later only to never watch the videos.

When you’re considering panels, you’ll want to choose at most three per day unless you want to be overwhelmed by information. The creative energy of 10,000 geeks can be a bit much.

Flip through the list of panels and find a few must-see panels and leave the rest of your schedule open. Try to include one panel that’s within your area of expertise and another that’s in a neighboring area that you’d like to know more about.

Question: How do people find each other? It’s a madhouse!
Answer: DMs and text messages. And you’ll pack up once you get there.

Question: Do I need business cards?
Answer: They’re not strictly necessary. Your badges will be swipeable by smartphones this year.

Also, I learned about Contxts last year at SXSW. It’s a nifty service that allows you to send your information to other people’s phones via text messages.

Question: Where/how do people eat?
Answer: There’s a load of restaurants within walking distance downtown. Skip the in-conference vendors.

There’s a Whole Foods that’s not too far from the conference center, too. You’ll want to load up on water and snacks there.

While I’m on water, remember to drink plenty of it. You’ll be doing a lot of talking, learning, and (maybe) drinking, so it’s easy to get dehydrated. It’s hard to be your best when your brain is fried, you’re tired, and people are trying to have engaging conversations with you.

Question: Where should I stay?
Answer: If there’s still room and you can, it’s a lot more convenient to stay downtown. If you need to take a break, you can head back to your room and recharge. I also some great ideas spark last year that I lost by the time I got back to my distant hotel.

By the time you factor in renting a car and paying for parking or renting a cab and the time you’ll spend in Austin traffic, it’s better to just stay downtown.

(I know, it would’ve been better to know this about three months ago.)

Question: I’m not Internet Famous. Will I fit in?
Answer:
It depends. Treat people like people and act like you belong there and you’ll be fine.

Question: I’m a huge fan of Famous Person. Should I talk to them?
Answer: Yes. Keep in mind that they’re busy, though, so be brief and non-clingy.

There’s a fine art to edging yourself into someone’s field of view so that they know you want to say something to them really quickly. If you don’t master the art, you might find yourself standing outside of a conversation for a while. On the other end, just jumping in and interrupting the conversation to say how much of a fan you are doesn’t go very well, either.

Question: Are there any places where the Cool Peeps hang out?
Answer: The one that comes to mind is the Blogger’s lounge. The Blogger’s lounge is only accessible to badge holders, so if you cheaped out on tickets, you’ll have to stand outside and hope people come out to see you. I’m talking to you, Johnny.

Question: How much are the panels targeted at big business?
Answer:
Not as much as you’d think, and there are a ton of panels that don’t.

Question: How do I get the most value out of connecting with people?
Answer: Focus on quality and finding the people you really want to hang out with instead of trying to find everyone you might want to talk to. SXSW isn’t a game of Pokemon, after all.

As you group up, impromptu hangouts will start to happen organically. This is where the real value of SXSW is at, and you’ll want to give yourself ample time to lean into this smallish gatherings.

Question: Am I the only one that’s freaking out?
Answer: Not by a long shot. Almost every 1st timer is, too. You’re going to be okay.

Thanks to Ali Hale, Cath Duncan, Johnny B Truant, and Elizabeth Potts Weinstein for asking great questions and reminding me that I might be able to help other people by sharing these ideas and suggestions. If I missed your question, please ask it in the comments and I’ll answer it in the post.

Come up and say hello if you see me this weekend – follow me on Twitter at @CharlieGilkey to see what I’m up to. I’ll see you there!

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Today’s post is a conversation I wish someone would’ve had with me years ago before I started my entrepreneurial journey. I may not have been able to understand it then, but it would have been nice to at least have it on the board. I’m sharing it with you so that it is something you can think about as you walk along this road.

I started along this path because I knew that were a lot of people out there who had just as many challenges  doing great work in the world as I had who hadn’t done the research, exploration, and experimentation that I had already done. I’m not a fan of duplication of effort, so I decided to share what I’d learned so that I could help others. Whether or not I ever became a giant, I wanted to give others some shoulders to stand on.

Somewhere along the path, I started reading books on business strategy and techniques, and while they helped me gain some momentum, I had to read them with a filter on because they were all about making money and selling. It seemed like every discussion focused on money and numbers – all in the efforts to pull resources from people to you. [Intrigued? Read more...]

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Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Ali Hale from Aliventures.

I‘m a woman, and I care about productivity. So today I want to start reaching towards some answers to the question Charlie posted in What If Women Cared About Productivity? (You might like to read or re-read that post – it’s from December 2008 – so you know where I’m coming from here.)

Perhaps I’m not the best person to address this issue. I’ve never been especially girly. Over the years, I’ve had more male friends than female ones. I hate buying shoes. I live in jeans and t-shirts. I listen to thrash metal. I enjoy roleplaying games and computer games. I make my money in a bloke-dominated area: websites, blogging and ebooks.

I can’t give you the definitive female view on productivity, any more than Charlie can speak for every man on the planet. I can, however, try to give it as I see it, and explain where the current trends in productivity-advice fall short. [Intrigued? Read more...]

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Raise your hand if you’ve recognized too late in the day that you haven’t been doing the stuff that really matters, only to freak out, get overwhelmed, and resolve to work longer and harder – while still doing the same kinds of things that you just beat yourself up about doing.

Don’t worry, if I weren’t typing, my hand would be up, too.

This problem arises because there are two especially challenging parts of the day for us creative people:

  1. Getting a great start on the day
  2. Letting go at the end of the day

These two challenges are intimately related. Since we often don’t know what we should be doing, we get involved in a lot of easy to engage tasks that often aren’t the things that really matter the most. By the time we get our heads on straight, a lot of time is squandered – so we end up trying to overcompensate by working longer.

Then, at exactly the point at which it’s clear that you’re no longer able to do something without messing it up, you remember all the stuff you should’ve been doing in the first place. You know that it won’t get done no matter how hard we beat yourself up about it, yet you also can’t just let it go.

Yes, my hand would still be up.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Interrupting this pattern is as simple as figuring out what we need to do, doing it, and then checking at the end of the day to make sure we did it. Remember, something being simple is not the same as it being easy. [Intrigued? Read more...]

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Do You Have the Weirdo Syndrome?

March 5, 2010

“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else” – Judy Garland
One of the things that comes up over and over again in my conversations with a lot of the cool, creative people that I meet is what I’m calling the Weirdo Syndrome. The Weirdo Syndrome is the [...]

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What Lift Off Was All About (For Me)

March 4, 2010

[This post contains a video that's about 6 minutes long. If you're reading this via email or RSS, you might have to click through to see it.]
I mentioned in the March 2010 Bonfire that the Lift Off Retreat was fantabulous, and since then I’ve been thinking about how I was going to talk about it. [...]

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Why Formulas and Trends are Often Dead Ends

March 3, 2010

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Ken Robert from Mildly Creative.

Have you ever followed a foolproof formula into a big, brick wall? Have you ever rode a sizzling hot trend right into a drainage ditch?
The next time your best laid plans meet a dead end, ask yourself this: were you chasing one [...]

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March 2010 Bonfire

March 2, 2010

I tried something new in the newsletter last month and asked if people would like me to make it a blog post so they can come join the fun, and a lot of people said they’d like that. But then I thought: what should we call it?
I finally settled on bonfire (with Marissa’s help). It’s [...]

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March 2010 Planners Available

March 1, 2010

Here are March’s planners. I meant to get them out last week, but I wanted to wait until this month’s surprise was ready. Enjoy!
Release notes:

The reception for the Premium Planners has been phenomenal! Thank you for all the feedback and requests. Speaking of requests…
There’s now a premium version of the Blog Post Planner and Calendar. [...]

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