Episode 10: How to Build Stronger Bonds with Todd Kashdan

Highlights of This Episode:

• Why it can be challenging for Todd to live up to his two core values simultaneously
• The three things he does, with “military discipline,” every single day
• Why establishing habits is more beneficial than just following your passion
• Why certain aspects of narcissism can sometimes get better results than being kind and compassionate
• Why forming a solid bond of trust requires uncomfortable conversations and shared adversity
• Why negative emotions are so important
• How to be more tolerant of your own distress
• Why it’s actually not a good idea to be mindful all the time
• Why being successful and productive requires some behaviors we consider selfish or aggressive

“We become what we’re doing, so what are you doing?” –Charlie Gilkey (Click to share – thanks!)

About Todd Kashdan:

Dr. Todd Kashdan is a world-recognized authority on well-being, strengths, social relationships, stress, and anxiety. He has published more than 150 scholarly articles and is the author of Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life and co-author of the new book, The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self – Not Just Your “Good” Self – Drives Success and Fulfillment.

Dr. Kashdan is Professor of Psychology and Senior Scientist at the Center of Advancement of Well-Being at George Mason University. His research has been featured in several media outlets, including The New York Times and The Washington Post.

He’s a twin and has twin daughters, with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists. He says the things other people want to but are afraid to.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

• Curious? by Todd Kashdan
• The Upside of Your Dark Side by Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener
• Body of Work by Pam Slim
• Todd Kashdan’s website
• Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg

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