This morning, I realized how much of my current suffering is grieving the lost time from when Dad passed about a year ago. I had already incurred enough distraction and time debt […]
Life Lessons
Owning Your Power at Any Age
Our culture glorifies youth. Even the word “old” is one we would prefer to avoid. Negative messages about age come at us our entire lives. Throughout my life, I have heard people […]
Boundaries & Presence: The Myth of Multitasking and What It Costs Us
As much as we tell ourselves that multitasking is productive, we know at an intuitive level that it’s not. The lie of multitasking is that, if we just do it well enough, […]
What to Do When Work Intensity Is the Problem
A client recently wanted to problem-solve for working four days a week, but when she started explaining the problem, it wasn’t about the load of her days or how many days a […]
Self-Worth and the Floors and Ceilings Metaphor
I’d like to float the idea that self-worth is a fundamentally different thing from self-esteem or confidence. People talk about these ideas as if they were each one and the same. But […]
How to Focus on What’s Most Important
Recently I joined my friend Eric Zimmer on his podcast, The One You Feed, to discuss how to focus our lives on what’s most important to us, and what blocks us from […]
Is Being On the Hook Serving You?
We need to start unpacking what it means when we’re ‘on the hook’, or when reality and what you think you should be doing diverge.
5 Questions to Reflect on Your Summer
I’m back after some unplugged few weeks off and I’m happy to say that Angela and I finally unlocked how to have a great staycation. It’s been an elusive endeavor as a […]
Reeling, Organizing, and Marching are All Distinct Projects
I don’t yet have words about the Roe v. Wade ruling on Friday, so emoji will have to do: 😱🤬🖕🏽👺💪🏽✊🏽❤️ Actually, that’s not true. I have about fourteen essays in me, with […]
Before the Crisis, There Was Abundance
A recent conversation with Steven Kotler for the podcast (coming soon, y’all) added some additional heat to some of the slow-cooking thoughts I’ve had on abundance over the last couple of quarters. […]
Why Getting Clarity About Our Care Work Is Valuable
Searching for a job or finding a new client project is profoundly different from the way we make our way to caregiving roles. Raising a child or taking care of an elder […]
A Simple Exercise for Burnout Recovery
Last summer Charlie and I led a webinar to help leaders identify and scale back burnout on their teams. The experience, and gathering so much fresh input, was enlightening to those involved […]
What Traumatic Brain Injury Has Taught Me about Self-Compassion
We know statistically people forget more than they think they do. Our bias is to believe that we’re mostly on target, correct, or in the right, when it comes to our memory. […]
How a Conversation with Your Past Self Shows Your Growth in the Gap
Each of us has at some point faced a scenario where we felt inadequate, or not up to the challenge. When confronted with new challenges, it’s not uncommon to doubt your ability, […]
Are You Honoring Your Seasonal Energy?
Nature’s seasons hold many lessons, which stand out most clearly in the darkest time of year. While at a conscious level we know that winter turns to spring, and eventually summer, in […]
What to Do If You’re Stuck in the New Year’s Disillusion Cycle
For a lot of folks, the end of January means guilty feelings and disappointment when we realize we haven’t yet radically transformed in the three to four weeks since the New Year. […]
Heart Knowing
At some point in most of our lives, we experience the difference between “knowing” at a mind or brain level and knowing a truth in our hearts. That difference, and the ability […]
Let the Process Be a Process — And Don’t Forget to Play
When people come to me for advice, certain themes tend to come up time and again from different voices, across livelihoods, and types of projects. Whether it be business thought leaders, writers, […]