Comments on: How Friends Help You Flourish

By: Charlie

Charlie — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:33:07 +0000

I understand your perspective here and I actually agree with you. True friendships are reciprocal that way, and helping others would be a component of true flourishing.

However, there are people who abuse the help and can create a situation in which you can’t help as many people as you could because of their demands and requirements – I’ve written about leeches elsewhere.

Sometimes it really is a question of whether you’d prefer to have flourishing, healthy relationships of reciprocal help and support with 5 people or strained relationships with 4 people because 1 person is taking 80% of your time, attention, and energy. If you’ve not had to make a choice like this, count yourself very, very fortunate.

By: Summer Abbott

Summer Abbott — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:39:57 +0000

I prefer to examine my friendships in terms of “how am I helping my friends to flourish?” There are always people around helping me, but the true question is how can I help them.

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By: Kelly@SHE-POWER

Kelly@SHE-POWER — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 06:16:38 +0000

Great post, Charlie. I think friendships are such a vital part of life. I really feel for people who don’t have at least one other person to share the joys and sorrows of life with.

I consider myself very blessed because I have 5 women who are like sisters to me and have been an integral part of my life for over 18 years. They are not my only close friends, but they are beyond what I would call friends, they are family. I find it hard to imagine anything that would make these friendships end. They are simply a constant in my life and without them I would feel quite lost.

Do we make each other more virtuous? I’m not sure about that. Sometimes we do, but at other times we have been out of sync with our life stages and confused about each other’s choices. But for some reason this never changes the intrinsic foundation we have. I’m trying hard to think now why that is, what are we getting from each other? But I don’t have a clear answer. It’s mysterious, like love. Sometimes I think a bond forges and cannot be broken because you have each handed over a piece of yourselves and that’s not soemthing you walk away from.

This has really made me think. Thanks.
Kelly

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By: MonkMojo

MonkMojo — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 04:13:44 +0000

@Charlie: I luvz me some categorization, clears things up. Thanks @May: I'll be your friend for $20.00 MonkMojo's last blog post..shoot the tube with your vision board

By: May

May — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:55:04 +0000

I already let them go. That's why the situation sucks because I haven't been able to make new ones. May's last blog post..Detox Your Life (How To)

By: Charles Gilkey

Charles Gilkey — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 15:28:33 +0000

@ May: I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe it’s time to let them go? I like the your blog, by the way – keep up the good work.

@ Clay: I’ve received many lessons from you and your blog – let’s call it paying it back :p.

@ Amy (aka QRW): Thanks for the trackback. I’m glad you liked it.

By: Clay Collins | The Growing Life

Clay Collins | The Growing Life — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:42:38 +0000

This post makes me want to be a better friend. Thanks for providing today's lesson. I needed it. --Clay Clay Collins | The Growing Life's last blog post..8 Things a Pickup Artist Can Teach You About Seducing Your Spouse