Several years ago I was in a place where it felt like it was all I could do to get through the day. You know those days when what sounds best to you is crawling under the covers or into a hole and staying there for a couple of months while your family, boss, co-workers, partner, friends, etc., figure it out for themselves and leave you alone? I see you nodding your head.
It wasn’t a depression, but it certainly could’ve turned into one. Depression and anxiety have knocked on my door in the past. No, this was different. I was so caught up in the swirl of life, feeling pulled in five directions, overwhelmed with all I needed to do, that I’d completely lost sight of my core needs. I was also dealing with decision fatigue: You know that place where deciding what to eat for dinner is Just.Too.Much? I see you nodding your head again. We all get to this place at some point.
One particularly challenging day, Charlie saw that I was struggling and asked me what I needed to do to take care of myself (sometimes you need the stark reminder that in order to take care of others, you have to take care of yourself first). I had no answer. I was so outward focused and in the swirl that I couldn’t even come up with one thing that I could do for myself. Yikes!
How to Make a Self Care List
When I’m in this place of overwhelm and feeling pulled along by life rather than piloting my own ship, I often forget to check in with myself. So, being a person who loves lists and knowing that I need to see something to make it work for me, I came up with a simple, yet powerful, list of things that I could turn to when I felt overwhelmed and didn’t know what I needed.